"I... "

How do I learn to love myself and be happy in life?

With a lot of self-reflection and growth. 

I need to look at my flaws and accept them. 

I need to stop saying I have this flaw and that flaw makes me less than others.  I need to see my flaws and see them as an opportunity for growth, so I can make myself more than others. I relied on someone else for so long to validate me and give me worth, I never learned to validate myself.....how and the hell can someone else love me and be with me if I  don't love myself and want to be with me? 

Starting over at 44, but I am not really starting over, my path just took an unexpected turn, and my story has begun a new chapter. Yes other than my personal possessions I will have essentially nothing, but that also means I have nothing holding me down to one spot. I can go anywhere and be anything/anyone. I need to force myself to grow by challenging myself. I cannot fall back into who I was before I met T.

So how do I do all that? For me, I do something I always wanted to do..travel. I want to see the world and. I need to do it alone at least for now. I need to be alone, not alone shut off in some little room in front of a laptop but out in the world seeing the things I wanted to see and forging a new path.

Feed the Wanderlust

I have always wanted to see Europe. '

So I think for the next while.I am guessing the next few years I am going to wander. I will stay in Canada and work and save and then travel and when I run out of money I will come back and work and save and then travel. I will start small and explore the town I will be setting up my new home base in ..get lots of hiking done. What I want to do is eventually Hike the “Camino de Santiago” https://santiago-compostela.net/ . There are 3 routes I would like to try, “The French way” “ The Portuguese way” and The Via de la Plata “The Silver way” they range in length from 790km to 1000km and should take about a month to a month and a half to walk each of them. For training this summer I WILL walk the confederation trail, this is a trail located in Prince Edward Island Canada(where I am from originally) it's over 200km long, but pretty much all of it is near populated areas, many areas I am already familiar with. So I figure this will be a good place to train for walking long distances. ..BUT right now this very instance.I need coffee.



“The past is the past, it has already happened. Live for today for tomorrow isn't promised.”



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